We did it! Toddler X sleeps in his own bed! All night! Whew. Now that I have all those exclamatory remarks out of the way, I bet you’re wondering what unknown secret I managed to find that no mom in 10000 years of human history has ever thought to try. Well, I don’t have one to share with you. We did half ass sleep training every few months. Invariably, we got lazy and the toddler ended up back in the bed, sleeping sideways between us.
If I had to guess, this time we were just ready. All of us. Our bedtime routine is pretty unorthodox, we all lay in the bed and watch TV until ten pm. Then we give kisses and X goes to his crib. What once was followed with at least fifteen minutes of screaming is now a quiet affair. He lays down, occasionally we will hear him say a word or phrase and he falls asleep. Maybe it has to do with him finally beginning to attach to something other than his belly button. He holds his teddy close and together they pass the night. When I check on him, teddy is usually still clutched in his arms.
It’s been a week now of full time crib sleeping. He wakes between 7 and 9 and I bring him to my bed for cuddles. Usually he falls back asleep until 9am and then we are up and ready for our day.
We tried a variety of sleep training methods with varying degrees of success. I think what finally worked for us was being ready to commit to it. With another kid on the way, my belly is going to need that space he was taking up in the bed. I was also irrationally afraid he would kick my tummy in the night and I would wake up in a pool of blood. What? I said it was irrational! So we stuck to it and it worked. We are no longer bedsharing. Yes, I do have nightmares that I will go in and find him dead in his crib or not find him there at all. Mommy brain never turns off. Even at night.